Why I’m Not Making Any New Year’s Resolutions.. and Why You Shouldn’t Either

New Year’s Resolutions.

I feel like as soon as you decide you are going to make a new years resolution… you are setting yourself up to fail. Hard core. It’s not that we don’t want to better our life by changing certain habits. It’s that we go at it full force, cold turkey and so suddenly that a few days or weeks into the process, we find ourselves struggling. A lot.

Don’t believe me?

Check out your local gym on January 1st. There will be so many people there, you might have a hard time find an empty parking space. Group classes will be packed. Treadmills and ellipticals will be occupied by good intentioned people telling themselves this is THEIR YEAR. Everyone will be gung-ho about their new years resolutions.  It’s awesome. There is a certain energy that comes along with the new year. People are ready for change….

And then will come mid- February. The gym won’t be bustling anymore. All the new faces you saw just weeks ago have disappeared. The instant results we thought we would see just aren’t there. We feel defeated. It happens every year.

Don’t feel bad. It happens to me too. Every.Single.Year.

My New Years resolutions usually look something like this:

  • Workout Every Single Day for 60 minutes
  • Don’t eat sugar, carbs, dairy, etc
  • Only drink water. Ever.
  • Loose 60 pounds
  • Count your macros
  • etc, etc, etc


Why We Are Unsuccessful

Guys… this is just not attainable for me or any of us to do in one big foul swoop.  I know I can’t just go from not working out and eating whatever I want, to this muscular athlete with a perfect diet. Those are some huge lifestyle changes. They may take a little time to perfect. It’s not because we are failures. It’s because we’re human. Sometimes we want chocolate. Sometimes we want Cafe Rio. Sometimes, we’re too exhausted to go to the gym. Then, suddenly we find ourselves eating whatever we want because, well, we  blew our diet on a candy bar so why not?

I think a lot of us struggle with the all or nothing mentality. We try to make big huge changes and if we slip up a little with our goals, we feel like failures and quit. There’s always next year.. right? Wrong. We need to allow ourselves to be human. We need to allow for mistakes. We need to realize it’s not the end of the world if we fall of the wagon and eat a treat, or two, or a whole bag or chips.  Tomorrow is always a new day and we can try again. We can always keep trying.

Instead of making a long list of resolutions, this year I am trying something different. This year, will be about baby steps and self-love. We could all use a whole lot of self love. I am re-wiring my brain this year. My goal is not to be as skinny as (fill in the blank to whatever super model, celebrity or fit mom you constantly compare yourself to).  My goal is to be fit. To be healthy. To love myself more than I did last year.

It’s all about the baby steps.

I will be adding baby steps to my journey every week. Little tiny baby steps. Every week, for the entire year, I will be trying to better myself. A baby step is a step in the right direction.

Some examples of some baby steps could be :

  • Go to bed 10 minutes earlier then you did the last week
  • Replace one Diet Coke with water
  • Meditate for 5 minutes one a week
  • Write in your journal every Sunday
  • Make lunch at home instead of grabbing fast food
  • Say one affirmation every morning

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It’s the little tiny changes we make over a period of time that will help us with our goals this year. Don’t even say the words ‘New Year’s Resolution”. Just think of one baby step you can start. Build on your baby steps. I promise you, one year from now, you will be amazed at how your baby steps have added up!

Check back next week for another post about the baby steps I will be working on in 2018 as well as how I found success in the gym with baby steps this year. My results and before and after pictures will also be posted.

Happy New Year Friends!!!!

XO- Haylee

5 thoughts on “Why I’m Not Making Any New Year’s Resolutions.. and Why You Shouldn’t Either

  1. Omg! I get this so much! I feel like people expect to break habit as soon as the clock turns 0:00 am. I understand writing down goals and working towards them but not completely saying , new year new me! It’s a process and God gives grace!

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